# Sunday Poser # 225 – Self improvement

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- Published: 2025-03-16T09:35:28-04:00
- Author: Heidi Dare Turner Jenkins

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> Welcome back to another Sunday Poser This week my question is; What do you do 
> to improve yourself? I might have posed this question before as well because…..
> it’s hard to think of new posers every week! I realize that till the day we are
> alive and in charge of all our facilities, we can […]
>  [Sunday Poser # 225 – Self improvement](http://lifeafter50forwomen.com/2025/03/16/sunday-poser-225-self-improvement/)

I deal with others who think I am stupid as a TBI survivor. Those who think I can’t
make rational decisions. Those who think any choice I make will lead to failure.
I wish they could understand the impact of their control over me.

We have all these people doing the same thing, thinking one size fits all. People
wonder why so many people are walking around miserable. Well, here is what I think.
Too many people want control. People believe their way is the right way. Any opinion
that is different from how they want things to go is wrong. Or so they think.

As a TBI survivor, I have lived many years in survival mode. I have chosen to do
things another way just because I let people control my outcome. I am finding most
of my choices, so out of my control, like my physical capabilities. Why would I 
be here like this?

Life as a TBI survivor is lonely. A lot of friends left me. Sometimes, I feel no
support. I mean, real support instead of control. People really do think I don’t
understand what it means to flourish in life. People think my choices won’t lead
to success. Honestly, I can feel the same way when I am not given the chance.

Being a TBI survivor is scary. I live in survival mode. Not knowing my future. But
who does know their future? Even if they aren’t a TBI survivor.

I can take one day at a time to survive. Just like you are doing. The next step 
is all I can take to survive.

People ask, are you OK? No, I am not OK. But I didn’t have a choice.

Until Next Time,

Heidi💜

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P.S. This was written before my morning coffee that knocks the dust off me. Thank
God for coffee

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